Whether you’ve been together with someone for years, or just met, there are some important things that you need to talk about with your partner before having sex.
Though, it’s perfectly okay to keep some things private and not talk about it to anyone, especially your fantasies. But in a relationship, with your husband, boyfriend or fiancé, there are certain things that you need to communicate. Talking about sex doesn’t have to be difficult, embarrassing or awkward and if it is, there are ways to make it easier.
So, before you hit the sheets and minimize the awkward moments in bed, you should discuss these important topics.
It’s better to be safe than sorry!
Talking about STDs, STIs or HIV status isn’t the most romantic conversation, but definitely an important one to have. Find out about your partner’s sexual history. For example, find out whether they have any STIs that might put you at risk.
If you want to avoid pregnancy, you must discuss what form of contraception you will be using – condoms, pills, or any other birth control that you use. Talking about this in advance lets you know your options to avoid pregnancy and other sexual diseases?
Talk about your likes/dislikes, where you like to be touched, what turns you on, etc. It can be a fun conversation, that could result in a better experience, as communication is an essential factor in having a great sex life.
Your definition of making love is different than your partner’s. Your partner may enjoy oral sex, while you might not. In order to avoid awkwardness, it is important to discuss such intimate needs beforehand to clarify on boundaries.
Before any conversation, especially about sex, you need to make sure you feel comfortable talking to your partner. If you aren’t comfortable, then now might not be the best time to either talk about sex or to start having it.
Communicating these things with your partner helps keep things open, and it also builds confidence and trust.
Be open about your expectations and don’t rush into anything you aren’t ready for. Transparency is the most important element in communication about sex, and it also makes sure you two are on the same page.